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Not wished pregnancy
At present there has increased the number of pregnancies not wished in adolescents. It seems incredible that in the age of the computer science, with so much access to information, this keeps on happening. In addition to being worrying that an adolescent has to confront the maternity from so early age, with all the consequences that this implies; it is many more angustiante that the young people, who every time begin sexually earlier, do not have conscience of the danger that implies having sex without protection. Since all of them know what means the HIV been. In spite of this, the worry of the young people, according to the surveys, is to avoid not wished pregnancy and it leads them to using contraception methods. We do not speak only about the adolescents, regrettably, there are men older than 30 years, which do not want to use condom. The excuse is that they lose sensibility with him. We do not deny that this could be true. But that it is more important, his life and that of his couple, or “to feel entirely”? Also, for the ages that throw the surveys, it is very possible that the difficulty is, that spent 35 years, they it is difficult to the man to support during more time the erection, and be afraid that with the preamble of the laying of the condom, a fall takes place in the excitement, and hence an absence of erection. The women, sometimes for not making to feel bad to his sexual couple, accept the laws of the game imposed by the man. It is fundamental that the woman who initiates a relation, of account that a new relation is never sure. And that demands the condom use. Nowadays every time it is more frequent to take a preservatives box in our purse. Even in the public checkers baths, nowadays there are condoms retailers, if it gives us shame to ask for them in a drugstore or kiosk. Also the typical excuse of the man is: "I forgot to buy, I am not going to go now when the sling is cut”. If you are not prepared, the best advice might be: "not to advance”. And to think: if the couple was cut for demanding to look after, it was not worth while. It is very probable that, of having gone forward in spite of the signs of alarm, not wished pregnancy had taken place. You can play with your couple and put you the preservative, this way, will remain excited, managing to support the erection. He thinks how you can convince your couple, give him safety. If it does not achieve the erection, which feels that it is not the death of anybody, much less, of his manliness. Help it, without pressing it, across the game, try it again. If it is really interested in you, it will do all the possible. Another option to avoid not wished pregnancy is the feminine condom, about which we will speak in this place. The advantage is that this method has more that to see with a direct responsibility of the woman. While in other occasions it is necessary to try to convince that they use condom, in this case it depends on the feminine decision. In a couple that is beginning, the ideal thing is to look after with preservative for some 6 months, then to do both the analysis to him, and if everything is fine, newly there they can use another contraceptive method that it does not protect from the infections of sexual broadcast, how for example: the VIH been, the Hepatitis, the herpes, etc. But this will depend of how stable be the couple, and if really two members of the couple are faithful. Is it possible to be 100 % sure of that?
The adolescent pregnancyThe topic of the adolescent pregnancy (like type of not wished pregnancy) deserves a special space, to which we will devote ourselves now. Here it does not depend only on the information of the means, of the school, of the friends who “know everything”, depends fundamentally on the information, containment, and time that the family must dedicate to the adolescents, so that insurances grow, and not invaded. Although if we think that the pregnancy in the adolescence can be wished, this depends on the culture in which it happens. In himself the same, any pregnancy implies a suffering of change or of crisis (that is to say, that any pregnancy might be "adolescent"). For everything what we have saying, it is fundamental of that you take care of your adolescent children. Be already males or women. The responsibility towards them must be the same. Neither it is suitable that from very small you bombard them with information for that they did not ask, and that not sabrķan like processing. This is very common in the parents who were not informed in their own adolescence, and he does not want that the same happens to his children. Taken care, since it is so harmful “to sin for excess, which for absence” (of information). The information, in general it is they who are asking for it of to little in every stage of his growth. What they need in every stage, is that you answer with naturalness (already that is not easy), that you do not avoid the answers, since if it is like that, of course they will not ask you again. There are books that face you on the topic, and also it is advisable to consult with a specialist, if you see that it is to you very difficult to chat about these topics with your children. Not wished pregnancy, so much like the adolescent pregnancy, is a topic of the couple but also it it belongs to the family and to the whole society entirely.
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